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Pamela Adlon has spent the last 25 years raising children, so it’s no wonder she’s having a hard time adjusting to life as a near-empty nester.
“It’s going to make me cry,” says Adlon, 56, whose two older daughters — actors Gideon and Odessa Adlon — have already left home. “I can’t even talk about it, it’s so upsetting not being in touch all the time. It’s killing me. The worst thing your kids can do to you is grow up.”
Adlon rose to fame as the co-creator, director, co-writer and star of FX Better Things, which reflected her real life as a single mother of three. But the actress admits she often felt like the odd one out around other moms early on in her parenting journey.
“From my first parenting class, when I picked up my daughter and looked like a freak, no one knew what to make of me. I wasn’t like a ‘real’ mom,” says Adlon, who wished she could look through the other children’s lunch boxes. to see how their mom made lunch.
Little by little, she learned to navigate her way.
“With the first one, there was a lot more discipline, and the second one I was like, ‘I’m going to let it go.’ The third one said “do whatever you want to do”, says the first one Californication star, who considers her parenting style to be “teaching a man to fish.”
“They’re wonderful, beautiful people,” she says of her children, adding that her little one is non-binary. “That bond is intense. And it’s just an incredible gift.”
Adlon was just a teenager when she made her acting debut in 1982 Grease 2. Although her experience as a young actress wasn’t always rosy, she doesn’t hesitate to support her daughters as they pursue their own acting dreams.
“I hate people who say ‘I don’t want my child to be in the business.’ What kind of psycho critic are you? Because things are so tragic in the world right now, why wouldn’t you want your kids to have a passion or do something that fulfills them and makes them happy?” she explains. “And it gives them focus and discipline and it doesn’t hurt them. It’s not like me, the 80s, and what me and all my friends went through. So I’m glad they have that.”
The Emmy winner is making her own career moves, making her commercial directorial debut with a series of campaigns for period underwear brand Thinx. The first spot, ‘Saved by Sister’, supports the launch of Thinx Teens, a new period care range for teens and tweens.
“Is very bassert that I was able to do commercials for Thinx,” says Adlon, referring to the Yiddish word for destiny. “Because, it’s like a need. It’s the most brilliant, revolutionary idea and I’ve been using them for five years now.”
Adlon notes that her new directing gig is a hit with her family.
“They all said the exact same thing,” he says. “Can we get free Thinx?”
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